After enduring weeks of single girl sympathy, you finally agreed to let your cousin set you up with that “great guy” she knows. Since you said yes, you figure you might as well make the most of it and keep an open mind. But, just in case, you ask your best friend to call your cell about a half hour into the date so you can fake an emergency if needed.

Actually, it’s not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend’s call saying, “Oh no! That’s terrible! I’ll be right over.”

He’s Late

This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn’t have enough enthusiasm for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn’t expect to be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times when you just can’t help it, but he’d better have a good reason if he shows up at your door even 15 minutes late.

He’s Not Dressed to Impress

You’ve spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he’s washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he’s dressed for a monster truck rally.

He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally

Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there’s bound to be trouble.

The fact that he didn’t bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker’s thoughts on the plan) doesn’t bode well for how he’s going to respect your needs and wants in the future.

He Expects You to Pay

It’s not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it’s chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there’s nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course).

No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn’t give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won’t see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date.

He Talks About his Ex

So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.

If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn’t call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It’s not a good sign if he can’t say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship.

How Can I Put This.? He’s a Weirdo.

Yes, it’s time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored.

Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours

When he’s not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It’s normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can’t think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it’s time to call it a night.

If it’s twenty minutes in and you’ve run out of things to talk about, you probably don’t have much of a future together.

Can you save your relationship after cheating? Strange as it may sound, you can. Others have done it. True love is forgiving. It may not forget but it is willing to give the relationship another chance. One of the main reasons for a break up is infidelity. Someone has cheated. Why? Perhaps, the fire or even warmth has gone out of the relationship or perhaps it was an overwhelming temptation. Whatever the reason, these things happen.

What do you want? Take revenge? Adopt the, “What you can do, I can do too”, attitude? Yes, do that if you want to make a bad situation, worse. The fact is that this “paying you back” approach is not a sensible thing to do especially if you want to save your relationship. Getting involved with someone else, cheating, having an affair or deceiving your partner for reasons beyond your control is one thing but doing it as a planned move is to say the least, intolerable. The burden of guilt is very much heavier.

So, the cheating has taken place. It has been done. What do you want to do? First decide on whether it is worth to save your relationship. Next, be very clear on what you will not do. What does your partner want? Is he or she prepared or still committed to the relationship after the one night fling? Or have there been a series of flings? Harder to forgive but you have to decide anyway.

Be clear about continuing with the relationship. Is your partner willing to come clean and declare their position? Only then can you begin to really get down to what happened and why it happened. This will allow both of you to move on with what needs to be done to save your relationship.

Both of you need to put in the required effort to be honest with yourselves. Admission of wrong, being truly sorry for what happened and resolving not to let it happen again are crucial to saving the relationship. There must not be any room for thinking that the mistake can be repeated.

Once you have sorted out the first hurdle of coming to terms with what happened, you have a greater chance of saving the relationship. However, ensure that you do not keep bringing up the cheating any time you get into an argument. Instead, focus on what brought you together in the first place, Try and recall the things that you enjoyed doing together. It helps.

To save your relationship after cheating, your confidence will grow if you know what to do and how to do it. Cheating, lying, deceiving and all the other things that corrupt and affect relationships happen all the time. Others have been through it and yet managed to save their relationships. It depends on what you want. If you want to save your relationship after cheating, you need to get all the help you need.

- Aristotle

February has long been a month of romance! Valentine’s Day is a day that celebrates Luv ?? There have been many great romantics through time ….Sappho, Shah Jahan, Mary Shelly, King Edward III, Kathleen Woodiwiss, Vatsyayana, Giacomo Casanova, Richard Wagner, Edith Piaf, and Elizabeth Taylor.

There are varying opinions as to the origin of Valentine’s Day. Some experts state that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer’s daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it “From Your Valentine”. Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.

Gradually, February 14 became the date for exchanging love messages and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers. The date was marked by sending poems and simple gifts such as flowers. There was often a social gathering or a ball.

Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages (written Valentine’s didn’t begin to appear until after 1400), and the oldest known Valentine card is on display at the British Museum. The first commercial Valentine’s Day greeting cards produced in the U.S. were created in the 1840s by Esther A. Howland. Howland, known as the Mother of the Valentine, made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as “scrap”.

According to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated one billion valentine cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. (An estimated 2.6 billion cards are sent for Christmas.)

Approximately 85 percent of all valentines are purchased by women. In addition to the United States, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France, and Australia.

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It is a very common question, “How can I tell I’m in love?”, but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust.

What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can’t be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature – the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds!

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). Here are 9 statements that if you agree with you are probably in love.

• You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
• The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
• If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
• Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
• When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
• Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends – if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
• Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other’s loyalties or feelings.
• You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
• If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

This Love Was Meant To Be

By: Courageous Dreamer

Emotion filled goodbyes
polluted the air with sorrow.
Love was granted wings to fly
to be free–explore the world.
Yet that stong passion…
never dwindled nor died.

Soaring back with arms
of comfort, soothing words
exposed shaking in fear
of rejection yet your feelings
were mutually expressed in
gentle whispers; a simple
experimentation to show
this love was meant to be.

Love is classified as any number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment.

Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s
called falling in love, because you don’t force
yourself to fall, you just fall.

Understanding The Husband And Wife Relationship

By: Jason Bo Han

The wife husband relationship can be a complicated one. Many marriages fail because one or both partners dont really understand the dynamic of the relationship. If even one person has a basic understanding of it, the marriage is bound to be stronger. But if both people understand how a wife husband relationship works, then it has the best chance of being a good marriage.

One of the keys to understanding the wife husband relationship is to realize just how different men and women really are. Aside from the obvious physical differences, the sexes are different emotionally and mentally, too.

When faced with a problem, for instance, men and women tend to approach it from completely different angles. Women are more likely to discuss it with other people. They might get advice and input from a few friends. Its not uncommon for women to talk about the problem at length.

Thats because women solve problems when they talk about them. They explore all the angles of the issue and how they feel about it, and often in doing so a solution appears.

Men, on the other hand, tend to be more tight-lipped about problems. They think about it more than they talk about it. Its more common for a man to ponder a problem and say little until hes figured out the solution.

In the wife husband relationship this difference in problem solving can itself be a problem. He might think that shes talking it to death when she should be trying to figure it out herself. And she might think hes not even worried about something because hes not talking about it .When in reality, its on his mind all the time and hes just not pointing it out.

Women also have the tendency of not discussing the real issue. They simply want to find someone to express their feelings and thoughts. Or in shorter terms, they only want an emotional outlet. When a man discusses it with somebody, he is already referring the problem to find the solution.

Women can take some feelings off them by just being together with friends and sharing their problems to them. Her friends may not tell her what to do but can still support her by being sympathetic.

When a man states his opinion it is natural that his words are short and direct. A woman wants to bring about a conversation to discuss things and may think that her husband is just saying things to end their conversation.

Of course, not every wife husband relationship will happen exactly like these examples. Some men will talk out a problem and some women will be tight-lipped about it. But in general, the sexes can be expected to follow these typically patterns.

Understanding those patterns can help you stop yourself before you do something thats natural to you. You can think about what your partner needs from you instead, and do that .Your wife husband relationship will be much stronger and happier because of it.

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